All posts tagged: relationships

Relating to the present and to others

Hi peepz, How are you doing? 🙂 I am going through some rather difficult circumstances these days. I do regard them as learning opportunities, nevertheless I’m still having the regular ups and downs. But that’s how it goes! Unless you truly decide to quit suffering and act on it. The whole practice is to accept what is and don’t cling to anything, to have a good relationship with what is in this moment. Then you’ll feel inner peace, whatever happens. I learnt from Eckhart Tolle this weekend, through this video. It was really good to listen to while preparing dinner. He is such a wonderful person and good teacher. I am exploring what I want and need in my life, what costs energy and what brings energy. I feel this deep need for connection, and for harmony. I am thinking of ways for myself and others to start feeling more connected, and of what my contribution will be. Do you have any thoughts on this? On how to feel more connected? My mantra on this …

Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love

My previous writings about polyamory resulted in me getting quite some comments and questions from friends along the lines of ‘this is all nice and good, but aren’t you just perfectly monogamous?’ Well, I may as well am, but this depends on how you see. My first post about the topic was intended to grow some familiarity with the term polyamory, with the possible interpretations and implications. Today I will tell you more about why I find polyamory important. The bottom line of my previous post: Polyamory is about respecting your relationships and doing your best to make it work for everyone involved. It is about being able to love multiple people at the same time and it is in no way an excuse to treat others unethically. What I didn’t mention explicitly is that for me polyamory is closely related to spirituality. This again depends on your definition of spirituality. I could use personal development as an alternative. I’ll use them both here. What I mean with this spirituality or personal development is the …

The many ways of Love – and how to do it

My most-recommended book of 2015: The Ethical Slut, a book about shaping and sizing relationships according to your wishes in an ethical and sustainable way. You may not expect it from the title, but The Ethical Slut (TES)  is a really smart book! I learned a lot from it and I’m going to tell you all about it. TES is written by authors Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy and, as can be expected from the title, in this book they proudly reclaim the word slut as a term of approval: ‘To us, a slut is a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.’ That is quite a nice way to put it. This is a book about relationships. The subtitle of the 2nd edition reads: ‘A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships & other adventures’. I will tell you now that if you’re not interested in having multiple intimate relationships at the same time, this book can still be …