All posts tagged: personal

Yes to Nose & no to plastic surgery

Recently I read a blog post in which the author openly described the process of her considering plastic surgery on her nose so to improve her looks. My reaction? A blog post-worthy comment. I was so inspired because I have had my own troubles relating to my nose and to other parts of my body. This post is a further exploration of my thoughts and feelings. I cheer for everyone who chose to not use plastic surgery but to accept themselves as they are instead. Or to at least aim to learn to accept themselves. Getting to self-acceptance takes a lot of practice, I acknowledge that. I cheer for this because the positive effects of plastic surgery are so little. I would almost say that they are insignificant to the unwanted side-effects. The only positive thing about it is the change in looks, really. The other effects include: physical stress or damage, financial costs, negative side-effects that are associated to making the surgery happen (e.g. carbon emissions, involved money flows). Then there’s the psychological effects …

Know your value

Dear lovers, I likely need to restructure my work (here) so to make it more accessible and more valuable. I will update you as soon as I know more about how it will happen. 💓 Now I will share something I wrote half a year ago about knowing your value. Since then, I have come to value myself a lot more. I get so caught up in world problems and in feeling responsible for things, including the feelings of people around me, that I forget to just be. I still have this negative belief that I am not good enough or not worthy of love. This belief tells me that I have to meet all kinds of requirements to earn respect and love. Conditional love this is. I also hold the belief that I am ugly. I feel ashamed for having this belief. I feel torn between loving myself and my body and being humble. I long for looks to not matter and for not judging people or bodies based on their looks. On the other hand …

My spiritual background

It’s time for me to write something about my spiritual background! In the last few years I have learnt a lot and I have come to feel more secure about talking and writing about the theme of spirituality or consciousness. Also, recently I promoted my blog a little more and a friend even interviewed me about consciousness and meditation for his website. So now seems a good time to unfold a little, for who is interested. Some of you may recognize yourself in my story. At least now you’ll know better where me and my writings are coming from. I will attempt to keep it short. Questions can always be asked, and they may be answered. I did not write about ‘my spiritual background’ before, mostly because I deemed it not so important. I figured readers would get the vibe of my writing and that would be enough. The right stuff would come up in my posts anyways. But now I’ll give you a better picture of my path so far! Life story As a child …

Space invader #2: to speak your truth

I have come to learn that my judgement, intuition and wisdom are among the most valuable things I have to offer the world. Some time ago I described myself as ‘harmony-seeking quiet observer learning to speak loud and clear when needed’, which you may read below my blog posts. Earlier, in Space invader #1, I already wrote that I was learning to take up space. Now I am learning to speak my truth. My self-description is so accurate: so to not disturb the current balance I would often retreat in silence. But now I have come to see that ‘the current balance’ is often a state of imbalance – my contributions are needed to restore actual balance! One characteristic of spiritual growth or spiritual people is to become or be free of shyness, to be confident about speaking the truth. I have read this multiple times and I believe it is true. Being able to speak your truth is a quality to obtain through spiritual growth or personal development. “Wise men say that rushing is …

Expected lessons from personal growth program

Hello lovelies, I want to write about some recent personal experiences surrounding the possible enrolment in an online ‘personal/spiritual development’ program. It was the first time that I seriously considered participating in such an e-course. I had encountered ‘similar’ programs before, but due to the high investments of money and time I never saw it as an option. This time when I found this program it felt more plausible for me to join. In the end I decided against joining the program. I would like to share why, because I harvested various valuable lessons here. It’s a lengthy post, but you can follow the headings and ‘side-notes’ if you prefer. Pros Several identified things contributed to my enthusiasm about this program. First, I like and trust the person that organizes it. I have been reading her newsletters and watched her videos and I trust her judgement concerning which information is valuable to receive and in which way, etcetera. Next, I would appreciate some consistency in my like. This program would last for a long time …

Moving up and down

Dear you, I would like to share with you how I feel. I feel stressed, tired and vulnerable. I’m in a transition period, and hopefully for the better. I try to get more organised and take better care of myself, but at the moment I don’t really succeed. I’ve been living in student houses for six years now and I am happy to be moving on soon. Everything feels so intense now that it surprises me that I’ve managed to cope with so much chaos around me for so many years. There’s always ups and downs, though. But I hope to find more peace and quiet when living together with my boyfriend, just the two of us in our space, with only our energies. I’m looking forward to feeling more at home in my home. There is no special reason for me sharing this, except that it brings me some peace already and I see the benefits of sharing. I hope you do not dislike -overly dramatic- posts like this. There are so many important …

Introversion in social movements

A week ago I left early from a trainings weekend of the Dutch Climate Movement, in which up to 80 involved people came together to do workshops, have discussions, make plans and have fun. After one day I felt like I had had enough stimuli and it was okay for me to leave. However, later at home I felt a little sad and disconnected. Had I made the wrong decision? That day we had discussed how the climate movement welcomes everyone, including minorities. Now I would like to write about the minority of introverts. The fact that I am introverted plays a big role in how I experience events like this is. Most often introversion is explained as ‘social interactions cost energy’, whereas for extroverts ‘social interactions give energy’. I personally don’t like this explanation too much, because for me the kind of social interaction makes all the difference. I, as do most introverts, highly value intimate conversations and indeed these give me energy. Meeting new people can give me energy too, but it depends …