All posts tagged: love

Beautiful period panties

The idea of period-proof panties already intrigued me: they’re literally panties that can hold menstrual blood without all the possible negative effects. But now these panties in the new and first colour scarlet make me go wild! Period panties are a product of THINX. And they are revolutionary! Okay, until now I used mine only twice and I am still getting used to it, but I hear positive reviews from friends. Plus: I am positive because mine fits like a charm, so I’m pretty convinced that my blood won’t run past it. (The latter happens with my moving panty liners, sadly.) So I feel safe wearing them! Also, the fabric, organic cotton, is firm (but soft!) so I do not expect it to loosen quickly over time. So durable they are! So now I adore the beautiful one in the picture. I love my black bikini panties, but the pictured one has such a lovely colour! Much like my menstrual cup in Wild Cherry – they would make a great match. They could work together …

Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love

My previous writings about polyamory resulted in me getting quite some comments and questions from friends along the lines of ‘this is all nice and good, but aren’t you just perfectly monogamous?’ Well, I may as well am, but this depends on how you see. My first post about the topic was intended to grow some familiarity with the term polyamory, with the possible interpretations and implications. Today I will tell you more about why I find polyamory important. The bottom line of my previous post: Polyamory is about respecting your relationships and doing your best to make it work for everyone involved. It is about being able to love multiple people at the same time and it is in no way an excuse to treat others unethically. What I didn’t mention explicitly is that for me polyamory is closely related to spirituality. This again depends on your definition of spirituality. I could use personal development as an alternative. I’ll use them both here. What I mean with this spirituality or personal development is the …

Love is a river that fills everything

„For me, love fills everything. It cannot be desired because it is an end in itself. It cannot betray because it has nothing to do with possession. It cannot be held prisoner because it is a river and will overflow its banks. Anyone who tries to imprison love will cut off the spring that feeds it, and the trapped water will grow stagnant and rank.“Athena in The Witch of Portobello by Paulo Coelho

The many ways of Love – and how to do it

My most-recommended book of 2015: The Ethical Slut, a book about shaping and sizing relationships according to your wishes in an ethical and sustainable way. You may not expect it from the title, but The Ethical Slut (TES)  is a really smart book! I learned a lot from it and I’m going to tell you all about it. TES is written by authors Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy and, as can be expected from the title, in this book they proudly reclaim the word slut as a term of approval: ‘To us, a slut is a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.’ That is quite a nice way to put it. This is a book about relationships. The subtitle of the 2nd edition reads: ‘A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships & other adventures’. I will tell you now that if you’re not interested in having multiple intimate relationships at the same time, this book can still be …

The Animals

This was supposed to be one of my first posts because of its utter importance; the draft has been in existence for over a year. And now it’s here! This is the story of the animals and the people who made me go vegan. In autumn 2014 I travelled for two months through Finland. I had made quite an unusual choice there, governed by the fact that I had to decide quickly where to go and that I happened to have two friends there, which made it the easy option. My stay has had a huge impact on how I am as a person. I learned that as a person you do have an impact. I met a lot of people doing amazing things, trying to improve the world in their own way. Among others, I met people building communities, people focussing on working on themselves, I met vegans and animal rights activists. The Animal Sanctuary I came in contact with the animal sanctuary Tuulispää, which is a retirement home and rescue shelter for farm …

What to do with all this love?

This is a drawing created by the artist Chiara Bautista. I love her art so much. She has a lot of images featuring these two figures, but there’s also others. I especially love this one, because when I found it, it felt so true. Sometimes when I’m really living in the now, I feel so much love. I have asked myself: So what do I do now? Where to go with all this love? Which is pretty awesome. Check out Chiara’s Facebook page for more of her work.

Clothing reconsidered

In my post Love your Body I introduced the topic of body positivity. I wrote something about how I think getting used to being naked or else in simple clothing will be good for your body image and self-love. I then did not specify simple clothing which makes it a very vague statement, but I did mean something with it. Clothing often seems to be really important. I recall that when I had the age of five a group of girls didn’t let me play with them because I was not wearing a dress. Later, I felt regularly as if I wasn’t really wearing the right and nice clothes and as if that made me worth less. I feel as if it took me ages to somewhat find out what I want and don’t want to wear and I just still don’t know really. However, I did find some things. With the ‘simple clothing’ I meant two things. First is that the clothing that you wear as a person is often linked to your ego …

Love your Body

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about both physical and mental health and taking good care of yourself. One thing that bothers me tremendously is the beauty industry, for they want you to believe you’re ugly, so you’ll buy their products. This quote I heard in a video summing up advices on how to live a happy life: ‘Don’t read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.’ That one really struck me. It’s so simple, yet it can be hard to see, for avoiding beauty magazines alone is not enough. The beauty industry’s messages are everywhere, they’ve become part of our cultures. Plus, this industry does its utter best to trick you into thinking they’re doing you a favour. Recently, in the UK there has been commotion because of Protein World’s advertisement for it’s weight loss collection. The advertisement shows a female model in bathing clothing with the text ‘Are you beach body ready?’. A petition on Change.org has been set up aiming to get Protein World to remove the posters. The founder …