All posts tagged: connecting

Relating to the present and to others

Hi peepz, How are you doing? šŸ™‚ I am going through some rather difficult circumstances these days. I do regard them as learning opportunities, nevertheless I’m still having the regular ups and downs. But that’s how it goes! Unless you truly decide to quit suffering and act on it. The whole practice is to accept what is and don’t cling to anything, to have a good relationship with what is in this moment. Then you’ll feel inner peace, whatever happens. I learnt from Eckhart Tolle this weekend, through this video. It was really good to listen to while preparing dinner. He is such a wonderful person and good teacher. I am exploring what I want and need in my life, what costs energy and what brings energy. I feel this deep need for connection, and for harmony. I am thinking of ways for myself and others to start feeling more connected, and of what my contribution will be. Do you have any thoughts on this? On how to feel more connected? My mantra on this …

World change starts here

My time in Thailand was great. It was the first time I got out of Europe and into the tropics. I went there to reunite with my boyfriend, who’d been out in Asia for some time already. We travelled together for a month after which I settled in Bangkok for three weeks to work on a project related to sustainable food production. Thailand is very different from what I’m used to in the Netherlands. Being there was a really valuable experience, to be able to explore the Thai culture. I think I learnt a lot, but it’s always hard to pinpoint such things, because change often occurs gradually. It became clearer to me that in the end many things aren’t really important. Thai people generally have different lifestyles and standards than Dutch people, but does it matter? Only if we think it does. Things are only as important as we make them to be, which makes importance a matter of choice – and practice. Most important to all of us, eventually, are matters of basic …

Walking the Talk of Vulnerability: exposing the personal blog

From the start of my already long-stretched blogging career I’ve been facing the same dilemma: to tell or not to tell my family and friends about it. You’d think writers want to be read, but there is a case for anonymity and sharing only with those close friends you know to appreciate your style, your online friends and those few other bloggers from across the ocean and wherever. With my current blog I have come to the point where I want to cover importantĀ topics, for others to read it and get involved. This is now my primary reason to write. Following from this, you’d expect me to widely promote my blog. I don’t. I am afraid of rejection. Being open about our insecurities and fears will bring us closer together One of my favourite themes is Vulnerability and how we can use it to change the world for the better. It goes like this: We are incredibly similar in that we all have insecurities and fears and this is what can bring us closer together. …

The advantages of wearing soft bras

Earlier I already wrote a bit about body image and self-love and how clothing can play a role in connecting to yourself and others. I believe that if we could value our appearances as less important, we would be able to connect more deeply with ourselves and one another. In my earlier posts I said something about simple clothing, being somehow neutral-looking and comfortable. On this topic, there is one specific thing I’d like to share further. Last fall I attended a Vipassana meditation course. I was just wearing comfortable clothes, all was fine. Until one day during meditation I got enormously aware of how uncomfortably tight my bra was. And really, it wasn’t enormously tight. It had been one of my favourite, best-fitting bras for years. Bras are supposed to be tight, that’s how they behave best. Say what? I got very confused and frustrated. Is this normal? Is this how it feels? I had heard of women disliking wearing bras and being really relieved when being able to take them off after a …

Post Secret community art project

This post is about a really cool community art project: Post Secret, for which people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard.
This results in enormously impressive honesty on insecurities and vulnerability. It gives insight in so many different forms of conflict and trouble in human nature, in relationships, in society, etc. I find it really interesting to get to read the secrets different people harbour. It is so real, so recognizable. We all have secrets, be it small or bigger ones. We have troubles coping with our feelings. We are so similar.

Clothing reconsidered

In my post Love your Body I introduced the topic of body positivity. I wrote something about how I think getting used to being naked or else in simple clothing will be good for your body image and self-love. I then did not specify simple clothing which makes it a very vague statement, but I did mean something with it. Clothing often seems to be really important. I recall that when I had the age of five a group of girls didn’t let me play with them because I was not wearing a dress. Later, I felt regularly as if I wasn’t really wearing the right and nice clothes and as if that made me worth less. I feel as if it took me ages to somewhat find out what I want and don’t want to wear and I just still don’t know really. However, I did find some things. With the ‘simple clothing’ I meant two things. First is that the clothing that you wear as a person is often linked to your ego …