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Reflection time

Moving is exciting and exhausting. I try hard to stay graceful and equanimous, though I get discouraged by the fact that we have to do without internet and physical mail. I want to get my shit organised but the circumstances make it really difficult. On the other hand, being disconnected from the outside world sure has it’s pros and cons. This years’ Christmas family reunions were nice and crowded, so now we can happily redraw and rest again. We can take time to reflect. It is good to revisit your core motivations to find if you let them lead you. Here comes one cliché December topic: resolutions. Do you have ’em? I do see benefits of reviewing the course of your life and whether you’re really doing what you want to be doing. And of revisiting your core motivations to find if you let them lead you. For me this is a good exercise and now is really the right time for it. It also helps to think in time periods or phases and cycles. …

Introversion in social movements

A week ago I left early from a trainings weekend of the Dutch Climate Movement, in which up to 80 involved people came together to do workshops, have discussions, make plans and have fun. After one day I felt like I had had enough stimuli and it was okay for me to leave. However, later at home I felt a little sad and disconnected. Had I made the wrong decision? That day we had discussed how the climate movement welcomes everyone, including minorities. Now I would like to write about the minority of introverts. The fact that I am introverted plays a big role in how I experience events like this is. Most often introversion is explained as ‘social interactions cost energy’, whereas for extroverts ‘social interactions give energy’. I personally don’t like this explanation too much, because for me the kind of social interaction makes all the difference. I, as do most introverts, highly value intimate conversations and indeed these give me energy. Meeting new people can give me energy too, but it depends …

World change starts here

My time in Thailand was great. It was the first time I got out of Europe and into the tropics. I went there to reunite with my boyfriend, who’d been out in Asia for some time already. We travelled together for a month after which I settled in Bangkok for three weeks to work on a project related to sustainable food production. Thailand is very different from what I’m used to in the Netherlands. Being there was a really valuable experience, to be able to explore the Thai culture. I think I learnt a lot, but it’s always hard to pinpoint such things, because change often occurs gradually. It became clearer to me that in the end many things aren’t really important. Thai people generally have different lifestyles and standards than Dutch people, but does it matter? Only if we think it does. Things are only as important as we make them to be, which makes importance a matter of choice – and practice. Most important to all of us, eventually, are matters of basic …

Confessions of a Social Media addict

My previous posts about sharing insecurities reminded me of the following. In the end of last year, Facebook and Instagram famous Essena O’Neill radically quit what she had been doing full-time for the past three years: she has been living for taking pictures in which she looked good, altering them, posting them on social media and receiving likes and followers. Now, all of a sudden, she had decided to quit social media, and for good reasons. This time she posted a video titled ‘Why I am REALLY quitting Social Media’ in which she tells her followers how her life has been, on  how she let herself define by numbers, by followers, likes and views, which became the only things that made her feel good. On how on the ages of 16 to 18 she spent her whole days proving herself online, trying to be that perfect person. On how she feels about it now, now she’s quit. She acts incredibly courageous. In the video she gets very emotional when she talks about her 12 year-old …

Walking the Talk of Vulnerability: exposing the personal blog

From the start of my already long-stretched blogging career I’ve been facing the same dilemma: to tell or not to tell my family and friends about it. You’d think writers want to be read, but there is a case for anonymity and sharing only with those close friends you know to appreciate your style, your online friends and those few other bloggers from across the ocean and wherever. With my current blog I have come to the point where I want to cover important topics, for others to read it and get involved. This is now my primary reason to write. Following from this, you’d expect me to widely promote my blog. I don’t. I am afraid of rejection. Being open about our insecurities and fears will bring us closer together One of my favourite themes is Vulnerability and how we can use it to change the world for the better. It goes like this: We are incredibly similar in that we all have insecurities and fears and this is what can bring us closer together. …

The many ways of Love – and how to do it

My most-recommended book of 2015: The Ethical Slut, a book about shaping and sizing relationships according to your wishes in an ethical and sustainable way. You may not expect it from the title, but The Ethical Slut (TES)  is a really smart book! I learned a lot from it and I’m going to tell you all about it. TES is written by authors Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy and, as can be expected from the title, in this book they proudly reclaim the word slut as a term of approval: ‘To us, a slut is a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.’ That is quite a nice way to put it. This is a book about relationships. The subtitle of the 2nd edition reads: ‘A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships & other adventures’. I will tell you now that if you’re not interested in having multiple intimate relationships at the same time, this book can still be …

The Animals

This was supposed to be one of my first posts because of its utter importance; the draft has been in existence for over a year. And now it’s here! This is the story of the animals and the people who made me go vegan. In autumn 2014 I travelled for two months through Finland. I had made quite an unusual choice there, governed by the fact that I had to decide quickly where to go and that I happened to have two friends there, which made it the easy option. My stay has had a huge impact on how I am as a person. I learned that as a person you do have an impact. I met a lot of people doing amazing things, trying to improve the world in their own way. Among others, I met people building communities, people focussing on working on themselves, I met vegans and animal rights activists. The Animal Sanctuary I came in contact with the animal sanctuary Tuulispää, which is a retirement home and rescue shelter for farm …

The advantages of wearing soft bras

Earlier I already wrote a bit about body image and self-love and how clothing can play a role in connecting to yourself and others. I believe that if we could value our appearances as less important, we would be able to connect more deeply with ourselves and one another. In my earlier posts I said something about simple clothing, being somehow neutral-looking and comfortable. On this topic, there is one specific thing I’d like to share further. Last fall I attended a Vipassana meditation course. I was just wearing comfortable clothes, all was fine. Until one day during meditation I got enormously aware of how uncomfortably tight my bra was. And really, it wasn’t enormously tight. It had been one of my favourite, best-fitting bras for years. Bras are supposed to be tight, that’s how they behave best. Say what? I got very confused and frustrated. Is this normal? Is this how it feels? I had heard of women disliking wearing bras and being really relieved when being able to take them off after a …

Clothing reconsidered

In my post Love your Body I introduced the topic of body positivity. I wrote something about how I think getting used to being naked or else in simple clothing will be good for your body image and self-love. I then did not specify simple clothing which makes it a very vague statement, but I did mean something with it. Clothing often seems to be really important. I recall that when I had the age of five a group of girls didn’t let me play with them because I was not wearing a dress. Later, I felt regularly as if I wasn’t really wearing the right and nice clothes and as if that made me worth less. I feel as if it took me ages to somewhat find out what I want and don’t want to wear and I just still don’t know really. However, I did find some things. With the ‘simple clothing’ I meant two things. First is that the clothing that you wear as a person is often linked to your ego …

Take You Time to get balanced

[summary] Participating now in the 30 Days Of You Challenge of Collective Evolution may be the perfect thing get you more balanced and efficient! Are you joining? You only have to dedicate one hour daily on being with yourself. You can maybe combine it with 30 Days Of Yoga or with start living your wild feminine lifestyle, if it feels right! (And for the latter: if you’re a woman. Well, I’m not judging.) Also, the Dutch VeggieChallenge starts tomorrow! Would you like to eat more plant-based? Join in! I’d like to hear your thoughts on the challenges! Are you balanced already?