Some books deserve to be recommended. Here I will list my favorite books and tell you why you should read ’em. For now, I made a start.


The Celestine Prophecy – James Redfield: mentioned in Space invader #2: to speak your truth

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance – Robert M. Pirsig: This novel addresses some vital aspects of life in such an intriguing way. I found it very tough to get through because of the complexity and the philosophy, but it is totally worth it. One of the main thing it addresses is the (perceived) ugliness of technique. For me this is very relevant, since I have quite an aversion against technique. Now I better understand the processes at play and I have more peace. (Read by me in Dutch.)

Women Who Run with the Wolves – Clarissa Pinkola Estés: quoted in All one

The Woman Code – Sophia A. Nelson: This book outlines a behavioral code of 20 ‘keys’ for women to follow so to have better lives. This sounds restrictive, and I likely wouldn’t have bought it on purpose – it was an accident – but I really like how she approaches life and relationships. This book is about knowing your value, standing up for yourself, being present in the world, being thankful and graceful, and about sisterhood. Very quick read. Key 1 is mentioned in Know your value, and I intend to write more about some other keys of the books.

The Ethical Slut – Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy: This is my most lent book of 2015, because I love to learn about ways of relating to each other. This book focuses on how to deal with having multiple romantic relationships or encounters at the same time, but to me it really is about how to have ethical and sustainable relationships! Essentially it’s about how to shape your relationships in a way that works for you and your parner(s). I have written about how I love this book in The many ways of Love – and how to do it, which was followed by further clarification on my views in Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love. After this, I have read the Dutch book Bevrijd door Liefde by Jan Geurtz, which addresses spiritual relationships. I like this book even more than The Ethical Slut, as it focuses more on the relationship basis (like I do in my blog posts) than on the practical implications of polyamory.

Hold me Tight – Sue Johnson: (Read in Dutch.)

Sex at Dawn – Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá: In short, this book is a popular scientific book about human evolution and the evolution of human sexuality in particularly. It debunks the common story of how men and women relate to each other sexually. It clarifies which part of human behavior is genetic and which part is, well, behavior. When humans started to practice agriculture, humans started the concept of ‘ownership’, which changed everything and made women dependent on men. This changed their sexual behavior, NOT their genes.
This book has A LOT of text and repetition which makes it hard to read. However, I love the subject so I recommend it anyway, if you love it too!

Taking Charge of Your Fertility – Toni Weschler

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal – Sheri Winston

The Multi-Orgasmic Woman (& Man & Couple) – Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams: These are three books. I can recommend the Woman version most, simply because I am a woman, but I trust that they are all good.

The Magdalen Manuscript – Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion


De verslaving voorbij – Jan Geurtz

Bevrijd door Liefde – Jan Geurtz

Een nieuwe Aarde – Eckhart Tolle