Space invader #2: to speak your truth

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Insights

I have come to learn that my judgement, intuition and wisdom are among the most valuable things I have to offer the world. Some time ago I described myself as ‘harmony-seeking quiet observer learning to speak loud and clear when needed’, which you may read below my blog posts. Earlier, in Space invader #1, I already wrote that I was learning to take up space. Now I am learning to speak my truth.

My self-description is so accurate: so to not disturb the current balance I would often retreat in silence. But now I have come to see that ‘the current balance’ is often a state of imbalance – my contributions are needed to restore actual balance!

One characteristic of spiritual growth or spiritual people is to become or be free of shyness, to be confident about speaking the truth. I have read this multiple times and I believe it is true. Being able to speak your truth is a quality to obtain through spiritual growth or personal development.

“Wise men say that rushing is violence and so is your silence when it’s rooted in compliance”Rising Appalachia in ‘Medicine’

This is similar to what I wrote earlier about taking up space in my post Space invader #1: the first insights. Whereas that post was mostly focused on physical space, this new post focuses on speaking your truth, which results from being able to take up space. I believe that learning to take up space is needed to be able to speak your truth.

In this post I will illustrate the importance of speaking your truth. Speaking your truth is important, not only to you but also to others and the world.

As stated, I have often been silenced by others or by myself. Like many people and mostly women, I have learned to be quiet, polite and compliant. My go-to method would always be to retreat. In my withdrawal, I did lots of analysing and ‘dissecting’ so to understand occurring situations and mostly occurring people. This behaviour served me quite well, for it resulted in (for me) great understanding of the world and people around me.

But now is the time to share my understanding with others and thereby change the world. And now these others don’t only include my usual peers but everyone.

I don’t mean to say that I know everything better than others. I do mean that all contributions are valuable and so are mine and yours. When people withhold from sharing their insights, they thereby actually limit growth of themselves and others.

This is explained and illustrated in the novel The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield. Throughout this book nine ‘spiritual insights’ are explored, and being open and honest are integral parts of several insights. The main character tends to be aloof and insecure and therefore not share his thoughts with others, because he doesn’t regard them as important (oh how recognizable to me!). His ‘shyness’ obstructs the natural flow of the conversation, leading to awkward silences where could have been a lively, interesting conversation. As a result, the conversation partners miss out on knowledge and insights – and fun too.

co-creation

Knowledge and insights can be brought to us through others. This makes perfect sense: we can all learn from each other, we actually do this all the time, and we can enhance each others learning processes. (There is more to this; this process works best if you maintain a ‘meditative state’ and direct energy flows in certain ways. I aimed to loosely illustrate this in the image above: you can lift each others energy or consciousness. Look up other sources about this, like The Celestine Prophecy or its Experiential Guide.)

Another illustration is the recent #metoo campaign, which totally shocked me. It was shocking to learn how many women have experienced harassment and assault and tricky to go back to my personal unprocessed feelings.

I personally recall two experiences in which a man assaulted me. I find it hard to judge these experiences. I tend to automatically add that ‘the assaults’ weren’t so bad, so to prevent people from worrying about me or feeling sorry for me. I now actually find my feelings about these occurrences ridiculous: I felt that I was supposed to hide such events and my feelings thereof so to not bother others. I felt shame, about being too trustful or too naive so that it happened, about apparently being  ‘sexually attractive’ to these particular men.

The occurrence of such acts does have a huge impact and not only through these ‘incidents’, because they are in fact no incidents. These events and the apparent widespread misjudgement of the seriousness thereof are part of something bigger: of institutional sexism.

The #metoo campaign illustrates that women and other ‘minorities’ are often silenced and how such processes can occur in societies and in individuals. Awareness of these processes and of how they manifest in you are needed to transcend them and to empower yourself and others.

I believe that everything I experience is a reflection of our world (or universe) and our culture. In the assault cases, I assumed that these were my experiences with which I had to deal by myself. I decided to not bother others with it, so to not make it bigger. While there is sense to that rationale, it is also untrue. These assaults are not my problem alone. Most of all, they come forth of problems in the involved men. Their problems come forth of their perception of the world, which is influenced by their surroundings. Much like my perception is shaped by my surroundings. Thus, our general culture may as well be the main problem.

In this rationale, treating these assaults as ‘my problems only’ and handling them in solitude does not accurately respond to the situation or actual problem. This approach only affects me and others indirectly through my altered perception of the world. This approach does not actually solve the problem! And imagine if millions of women handle like this! We all take personal responsibility for these occurrences but do not fully recognize the involvement of other people and address them too.

This is what happened. All these women were processing these occurrences and the sexism they endure mostly in silence. This approach does not allow for enough support, because women do not share their experiences with each other and thereby cannot support each other. Also, this non-sharing leads to a distorted image of how many women are affected, which allows for too little recognition of the severity of the problem.

The bottom line: our voices are ever important. For us to be able to work on the problems in the world, we need to recognize the problems in ourselves and take them seriously, for they are a reflection of much larger problems in our world. Taking our personal problems seriously and knowing that we are not the only ones experiencing them allows us to talk about it: to support and be supported. These important conversations contribute to identifying and realizing solutions.

Have you ever heard of a problem only one person had?

I believe that ‘single problems’ do not exist. Problems that seem small are likely part of a bigger problem that manifests itself in many individuals. Thus, recognizing and working on your problems contributes to the happiness of others too! Through helping yourself and supporting others.

As a personal note and disclaimer I may mention that I am pretty introverted and I find it hard to adapt to groups of people, as I wrote before in Space invader #1 and in Introversion in social movements. However I am very strict about telling the truth. I am aloof too, like the main character of The Celestine Prophecy, but I practice being more straight-forward and saying the things I deem important for the other to hear, even though the person may not like to hear it at first.

This is a complex theme and much can be said. I choose to leave it like this for now (in 1,414 words, ha). If you wish to add stuff, please do. This post was pretty general, but I may write sequels about more specific ‘practices’, situations or issues related to this. So stay tuned to not miss out. 😉

This post features a drawing of my new shiny Tumblr art blog Ninaeace! The apparent credits aim to promote my blog, so race over there for some drawings/paintings!

The picture shows beautifully coloured bushes on the university campus!

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Harmony-seeking quiet observer learning to speak loud and clear when needed. Acknowledges both the complexity and simplicity of the world. Above all aims to influence the world in a positive way by being a good person.

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