Month: February 2017

Bad dairy news for a better future

It’s not easy to deliver people the bad news, especially if they know it’s there and don’t want to hear it. People do this thing called strategic ignorance, in which they deliberately ignore all information they wish didn’t exist, so they can tell themselves that all is fine. There’s no problem there, as long as I can pretend there isn’t. This strategic ignorance is also being used by people to deny the problems that arise from using animals to get meat, dairy and eggs for human consumption. The problems range from animal welfare, to underpaid farmers who cannot support their families and to climatic changes leading to even more suffering of humans and other species. And honestly, animal products aren’t so good for your own health either. However, many people prefer to ignore all this, because they don’t want to feel the guilt that comes with knowing. While actually the fact that they do their best to ignore the problems is a result of them already knowing what they’re doing is not right and already …

Self care, you, me and beauty

Recently I played a game in which so-called ‘revealing cards’ asked my boyfriend and me wicked personal questions and we had to answer in complete honesty. Some where not so difficult, but others made me think. These questions and answers are so interesting – such good food for thought! – that I’ll drop them here. So, what would you say when a silly card asks you the seemingly simple yet existential question: Question: “When do you choose for yourself?” Do you have an answer? I think a lot about ‘these kind of things’, but this question is difficult! I hadn’t thought about it this way. Maybe you’d want to think about your answer before reading on. When do you choose for yourself? … Is it when you leave everything be and be with your own needs and feelings? This can be choosing for yourself, choosing to take care of yourself. But then, if you choose for yourself, are you not just being selfish? I find this distinction difficult sometimes. I think that in our culture …

Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love

My previous writings about polyamory resulted in me getting quite some comments and questions from friends along the lines of ‘this is all nice and good, but aren’t you just perfectly monogamous?’ Well, I may as well am, but this depends on how you see. My first post about the topic was intended to grow some familiarity with the term polyamory, with the possible interpretations and implications. Today I will tell you more about why I find polyamory important. The bottom line of my previous post: Polyamory is about respecting your relationships and doing your best to make it work for everyone involved. It is about being able to love multiple people at the same time and it is in no way an excuse to treat others unethically. What I didn’t mention explicitly is that for me polyamory is closely related to spirituality. This again depends on your definition of spirituality. I could use personal development as an alternative. I’ll use them both here. What I mean with this spirituality or personal development is the …